How does one become a “Cool” person?

This is my story. I was never the cool person, until I went to college and became cool. Here’s the two keys:

1.) Self confidence

2.) Kindness

First off, you gotta put yourself out there. Learn to say “yes” and step a bit outside your comfort zone. I hung out in the social areas of the dorm a lot. When some people who also hung out there invited me to go to a party with them, I said yes. And I kept saying yes, until I ended up with a solid group of friends who are all great people.

Next off, kindness. If you see a girl too drunk to stand, help get her to a couch and find her friends. If you see a guy throwing up on the floor, offer him a glass of water. Be there for your friends. You’ll run into toxic people, yes- but you’ll find far more good people than bad ones.

Remember that having both of these are crucial. Self confidence without kindness is a douchebag, while kindness without self confidence is a doormat. People want to be around people who make them feel good and who they respect. Nobody respects asshats or sycophants.

I won’t say it’s easy- it took me a long time to get to where I am now. But the most important thing is to realize that nobody but you can tell you what cool is. If you’re confident and kind and somebody doesn’t like that, fuck ’em. You wouldn’t be happy in their little clique anyway.